What is it about change that we resist, and what lies do we tell ourselves to keep us stuck in the ‘same place’?
What an illusion this is!
Think about it, we are standing on a spinning ball (the earth), which spins at X miles per hour, that travels through space, spinning round an even bigger ball (the sun), which itself spins round an even bigger centre, and all of this is on a moving journey through space and time.
So even if you try to stay the same, you are constantly moving forward.
Our bodies are also in a phase of constant change. Cells are renewed constantly. We refresh our blood with regular oxygen, water and nutrition. We get rid of things we no longer need (toilet activities haircuts, dead skin exfoliation). Our are bodies are not the same on a daily basis.
Ah you say, these are little changes, things we don’t have to be concerned with? That’s true, and what if the big changes were exactly the same, and if we didn’t worry about them, would be just as easy as breathing out the air?
You see, that’s the thing – we try and control the big changes, try to define the outcome, have a goal, which we can never really reach, rather than having a target and allowing the universe to work with us.
We actually actively work against what we could have, by confining and limiting the actual possibilities with our small world expectations.
By the way, this is me that I’m describing.
So what’s the answer?
There isn’t one – it’s more a question or a series of questions, or my favourite – a constant questioning of me.
If change is constant, what can I be for me that will allow all change to come to me with total ease?
And then question what comes to mind. As Morpheus said to Neo in The Matrix:
“We are taught never to question Neo, but in the question comes the way. There is no way Neo, only the question!”
Mind fuck or what!!!!
Now a few years ago, I was in my dream job, had been for 20 years – then one day I knew it was time for a move, so I moved. Friends, relatives and colleagues were all very shocked, as was I, but when its time its time. Follow the knowing!
And the move went well – what should have taken 2 years, all happened in two months, with complete ease. Everything fell into place even better than I could have ever imagined or planed.
There is the possibility to make change easy. It’s only our brain that complicates things. We overthink, over anal-ise things, and then get caught up in the going forward “what if’s”.
My recommend on this – live a Dan Pena life:
“Just fucking do it!”
Until next time,
Shaun, co-founder of Be Spunki