WHAT IS THE ONE THING THAT YOU DO, THAT HELPS YOU BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE?
Embrace the power of the negative self-talk
The alarm goes off at 6am on the button, marking the start of another day. Reluctantly I proceed to the bathroom, dreading the forthcoming commute to the office (No doubt, everyone can relate!). Hastily, I make myself breakfast while trying to envisage what this new day has in store for me and how I propose to accomplish my multiple daily objectives in the absurdly short span of 24 hours without going psycho or succumbing to a temptation to migrate to another planet (whichever is vacant really, just so that I can escape the overwhelming reality of our new-age lives).
This intimate ritual of mental decluttering has become deeply ingrained into my morning routine, helping me get crystal clear on my personal vision and the ways in which I can convert my desires into action.
But this is not another condescending preachy piece on the importance of prioritizing and brushing up on those time-management skills (even though you can’t deny the obvious – these are central to getting ahead in life, too!).
As a human being, I am prone to self-doubt, anxiety and emotional insecurity just as much as whoever is reading this feature right now. There are days, weeks even (!) when I feel like a pitiful loser and a total basket case, unable to adequately respond to the challenges of the modern world.
And while social media timelines are filled to the brim with the inspirational stories of success about ordinary people from all walks of life, who appear to sail through hard times, seemingly without losing their grip on reality, there is one thing you ought to remember: just like you, those Insta famous go-getters, high performers, overachievers and social media sensations battle with low self-esteem and fear of rejection day in, day out.
Only you will not see a singe post dedicated to this painfully relatable truth about the price of success because these battles are fought in complete solitude, it’s a top-secret solo mission where you pause, reflect and work up the nerve to face your imperfect self for the first time. Very well done, by the way, if you have already embarked on this journey of self-discovery – some will never muster up the courage to throw themselves into the deep end. That being said, I can hear you loudly questioning my competence in the subject on the other side of the screen – alright, smarty pants, thanks a bunch for sharing your valuable insights but now what?
Well, now that you have owned up to your flaws and imperfections, it is time to get angry! Yes, you’ve heard me right. When I found myself stuck in an unhappy place, dwelling on defeats of the past, I came to realize (and I assure you, it was not an overnight realization – give it time) that It is not about embracing and forgiving your failings and learning to love them, more than anything else, it is about channeling the rage at your imperfections into constructive action and turning the negative self-talk into positive energy instead of blowing your savings on the therapist for silencing your inner critic when he (or she!) actually has your best interest at heart.
Making anger your ally will transform your life forever. And this is my top tip for you. It may well be the best piece of advice you will ever receive in your lifetime. Whenever I’m tempted to put the important things in life on the back burner, the anger is my best friend and the most effective motivational tool: am I not good enough to reach my goals?! Hell, no. And I persevere my course.
I want you all to pose this question to yourselves: what are you angry about right now? Have you always wanted to take your passion for painting beyond the art class at secondary school? Or do you daydream about quitting your corporate job and opening a restaurant because all of you friends know that you make the most exquisite and inventive dinners in town?
How does it make you feel? Do you feel the anger boiling up inside? Good, it means you are ready to take action and to regain control of your destiny. If you are still unsure and willing to settle for this unhappy unfulfilling life you have led till now, well, my friend, you are not angry enough. But reading this article and internalizing its content could get you off to a good start. And you are still struggling to find and sustain motivation, hit me up – I’ll give you a lift. And it’s free ☺