WHAT IS THE ONE THING THAT YOU DO, THAT HELPS YOU BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE?
Never stop learning.
I have witnessed many people in life who think they know everything, refuse to listen and absorb information that could help them in the future. For me, there is no success in that mindset. I can’t compare my knowledge and experience to those who have been around longer than I have. I have always tried to take the best qualities in people and add them to my character. When entering the business world, it’s rare to go in with a polished shtick. It’s a learning process. I have been lucky to have had many amazing mentors in my life that have taught me so much on a personal and business level. I’ve always said that no matter what your job is in life, every single one of us needs to be a salesman or saleswoman. We are selling our talents and credibility to achieve a job. We have to convince a higher power that we belong here.
When one door closes, 100 more will open.
I am in an industry where the word “No” is more often heard than “Yes.” I have been denied chances that I felt like I deserved. At times it can be very depressing and degrading to work extremely hard and not see the success you envisioned. The thing I realized throughout my life of hearing the word “No’” is I was actually reaching smaller goals that weren’t being acknowledged. I was starting to speak and work with people who I never thought i would ever speak to or meet with about my music. As time would go on, after establishing business relationships with these people, I began to receive opportunities that I never thought I would have. I am blessed to work with amazing musicians worldwide. The key is to never stop working. You can’t get aggravated and think you are a failure. You only fail when you give up.
A healthy mind is a healthy life.
The entertainment industry can really take a toll on you. It’s public knowledge that many entertainers deal with depression, anxiety and more often substance abuse. I am open about dealing with anxiety from the pressure of my job and the pressure of trying to maintain a normal life. There is a very small percentage of people who make a living and become successful in the music industry. I work all hours of the day with no guarantee that the music I am writing or releasing will be successful. It’s not a 9-5pm job. You don’t get a bi-weekly paycheck as a musician. I used to really get sad and I beat myself up when something didn’t work out the way I planned. I was starting to burn out. I finally found peace in putting Spa music on and meditating every day. I began to internally speak nicely to myself and install confidence and positivity. It is a regeneration process that your brain needs on a daily basis. Treating your mind and body with respect is imperative.
Listen to your gut.
At the end of the day, if you are questioning or unsure of a situation, it probably means something isn’t right. Sometimes it is hard to distinguish right from wrong and we continue to question ourselves on a daily basis. I’ve learned to ask an abundance of questions about anything that leaves me feeling empty and unresolved. My gut intuition always lets me know if the person I am speaking to is genuine and legit. I am more often a good judge of someones character and intentions. I have be in situations in my life where I was told to work on certain things to benefit the livelihood of others. There were times where I made bad decisions from listening to others and not to myself. As naive as we all can be in our youth, we learn from our mistakes and we persevere. The prime voice of reason is your own. The answers are there. All you have to do is listen.
Have a great support system.
I am fortunate to have an enormous amount of support from my family and friends. My inner circle is small but vast in love and encouragement. I am a very strong, independent woman and always have been, but there are moments when I need that little boost of confidence to push forward. I didn’t make money in my musical career for a very long time, and as disheartening as it was, my parents never told me to stop trying. They believed in me. They believed in my talent. They saw the progress, hard work and dedication I have for my career. I’ve been singing since I was 13 and performing professionally since I was 17. This is a lifetime of work that was too important to me to let go. I am lucky that I have been given the opportunity to do what I love and I am grateful for the endless love and support that it is required to follow my dream of music. As a result, I have had a #1 dance song in the U.S. with my song “Insanity” and I am writing music for some of the best artists worldwide and major labels in the country. The road can be long, but the journey is worth it. Make sure you keep people around you who will lift you up and bring positivity into your life. We need love and compassion. At the end of the day that is all that matters.
recording artist . songwriter